- Addiction to anything Addiction on any level – social media, food, alcohol, drugs, shopping or gambling – can sour a marriage fast. “Your addiction quickly becomes a third party in your marriage,” says Lisa Bahar, a licensed marriage and family therapist in Newport Beach, Calif. Big red flag: If you feel like you’re cheating on your husband when you are doing it, you are.
Recognize the signs of financial infidelity. Do you see the bills each month? Are you seeing charges you don’t recognize?Approach your partner about your concerns in a nonthreatening manner.Once the cards are on the table, agree on a plan moving forward.Check in with each other to sustain your transparency.
Don’t try to be right; instead, try to solve the problemConsider your partner’s point of viewSolve one problem at a timeDon’t bring up past issuesAvoid personal attacks and criticismDon’t use power tactics like guilt, threats and emotional blackmail
